No More Fears
In order to find out exactly what is stopping you
on the path toward your goals you need to analyze
exactly how much you wish to succeed. By honestly looking at
your inner self you will find out how strong your will power
is and how many resources you have to put into. Unfortunately,
for most people this is one of the hardest tasks to do.
We mistakenly try to hide our failures and
disappointments, as they are the ones that can cause pain.
Our mind naturally eliminates all the factors
that are potentially harmful to our body. This is how our
most daring dreams and ideals get hidden somewhere deep
in our subconscious mind and we are afraid to bring them out.
Often the thought of succeeding is much weaker than that
of failing, and this fear is limiting our potential.
The society in which we grow up increases the fear of believing
in our ideals.
When turning into adults, teenagers have
to abandon the dreams and hopes they had as children and
see the “actual reality” surrounding them. Society teaches us
to follow a set of footsteps and never go stray. By creating order,
this process also limits creativity and passion. We may become
great citizens, but deep inside we will continue
to feel something is missing.
Here is a trick that may help you get closer
to your ideals. Begin by writing them down. Seeing the words
on paper has a strong effect and you will soon realize
if those dreams are or aren't worth fighting for, if you really
want them or not.
Try to examine each of
your goals through you own eyes. Don’t let the others
around you guide your view - you are trying to reach
your goal, not theirs. Don’t write your list in stone -
there’s nothing wrong to erasing or adding new goals.
Try to envision yourself reaching your ideal. By creating an image
of success in your conscious mind you will also
determine your subconscious to do the same.
Project yourself in the future, with all the skills that you need
to reach that ideal. Doing this often you will reinforce
your beliefs and increase the chances of getting what you want.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help when you feel
it's too hard to deal with too many challenges. Share your
feelings with a special person that
will support your actions and always be in your corner.
Try to judge if the trust you will invest in that particular
person (wife, parent, best friend etc.) will not fail.
Even if you think you won’t be accepted with your new ideals -
give it a shot.
When you do your best to eliminate, or at least reduce,
the fear that is holding you back, you will find easier to
achieve your expectations. It is not easy to carefully look
into your own soul, but you'll discover there the right
path to your fulfilment.